If the pension policy is still in your name, even though it is subject to a pension sharing order then they should still be talking to you. They should at least be telling you what it is they are outstanding to implement the order.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
That’s good to hear. I never realised how happy I would be after my divorce and like you I have new friends, interests and enjoying life to the full.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
David has a very good point. My wife instigated divorce proceedings and I did everything I could to frustrate the process for her and string it out. Yes I cost her more than she needed to have paid because of solicitors letters chasing me, me writing to her solicitor rather than dealing directly with her but on reflection it meant I was tied to her for longer when I could have been rebuilding mby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Depending on your soon to be ex’s age, if they get a pension sharing order they won’t be able to access that until they are 55, or 57 from April 2028 also unless legislation changes they will only be able to get 25% tax free and will be taxed on the reminding amount at their marginal rate of tax. That might be a good negotiation point to try and negotiate down how much you pay if you are lookingby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
My ex wife and I agreed our split and she got her solicitor to draw up the consent order. I read over it and there were bits I was not happy with, spelling and grammar errors (but that’s just me) and some wording I did not understand. I paid for an hour of my solicitors time to go through it with me to make sure I wasn’t being stitched up with legal jargon and she pointed out a couple of thingsby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
When I went through my divorce my solicitors costs were minimal compared to my ex wife’s. I only went to the solicitor for the things I needed their input on whereas my ex wife had her solicitor do everything for her.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
From Google. Tell her to do one, UK law applies here not Sharia. Although it is seen as a valid marriage ceremony within Islam, in UK law the Nikah ceremony is only recognised as a religious ceremony, which for that reason carries no legal weight. Under English law, couples who are only in a Nikah and who did not get a civil marriage are considered to be a “co-habiting couple”.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Unless your ex wife to be is living in a vacuum, you can be sure that she will be talking to people about what is happening and will soon find out that she is entitled to more than you are proposing and will more than likely be told to engage a solicitor of her own.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
You should read this post looks like you and Itsasmallworldafterall might have something in common.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Randomer4040 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > In my > EU country nothing like this could ever dhappen > .by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
For what it’s worth, my ex wife and I agreed our financial split between us and she had her solicitor draw up the consent order based on what we had agreed. When I was sent the copy to sign I engaged with a solicitor (I hadn’t used one up until that point) to go over it to make sure I was not being stitched up with legal jargon I didn’t understand. It was money well spent as she answered questby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
“”there are law firms in my EU country…..” @Randomer4040 - Where is it you live?by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Yes, it is crazy (in parts) but it is what it is and YOU can’t do anything about it. But say the boot was on the other foot, can you seriously say, hand on heart that if your ex wife to be came into the marriage, which is a partnership, with a couple of million and you arrived with one twentieth of that, lived in a million pound house that your wife paid for, that you wouldn’t be hot footingby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Buddy - you are ranting now, and about something that may or may not happen as you aren't married and don’t even live here. Let it go FGS and just live with her if you are that worried about it.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
There is a really easy way to circumvent this - just don’t get married. You obviously don’t love your soon to be perhaps wife enough to want to share the rest of your life and worldly goods with her.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
“Do i really have to worry about the crazy English courts?” I think David answered that previously - Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum did but I’m guessing you aren’t in his league.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
It’s not about who you marry, it’s about where you divorce.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
If you are planning for what happens when you divorce it is probably best not to get married in the first place. My partner and I have been together since 2016 but we don’t co-habit or have any desire to marry as we have both lost a lot in a divorce and neither of us want to go through that again.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
For what it is worth, I didn’t want to split up and divorce but my wife did, she was having an affair, I was prepared for us to work through it but she had totally checked out of our marriage. I tried to delay the inevitable as much as I could but with hindsight I wished I hadn’t, it just delayed things for me as well. Post divorce I now realise that I am a much happier person, I didn’t reby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
jamesreed3124 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > The divorce rate within the military, particularly > within the Navy, is twice the national average, That doesn’t surprise me, my brother in law was in the navy and married a nurse. His father said he would give it 6 months if ever he came out of the navy, and sure enough, he came out and they were separateby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Unless his father has actually died and left him the money then as far as I know you can’t include that as part of the pot. He might change his will, he might go into care and the fees eat up the estate. You can’t bank on an inheritance until you actually get your hands on it.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
If all you are doing is seeing who has what financial assets, you could just ask for a transfer value quote which your provider is obliged to give you within a fairly short timescale (but they might on,y allow you one per year). From my understanding it is only if you actually need a pe sion sharing order that an actuary would get involved, at a cost.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
You aren’t denying her access, just not allowing her unfettered access, you are after all entitled to your privacy, you live there, she doesn’t. Our house was owned as joint tenants, so we both owned all of it together. It’s a bit like the house I rent out, I own it, but it is my tenants home and whilst I have the keys, I can’t just go in when I want.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
You are entitled to you privacy so I would change the locks and tell your wife that if she wants anything from the house to let you know and you will arrange a mutually convenient time and help her with whatever she wants, as long as it is not something belonging to you. That’s what I did, and I made it clear to my daughters who continued to live with me that I didn’t want her coming into the hby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
I don’t know how it works in law but could you not ask your employer to defer the issue of the shares until your divorce has been finalised? My godmother downsized and it had always been her plan to give myself and my brothers a lump sum from the sale of her house as a sort of early inheritance, however my mother asked her not to do this as at the time my wife and I had separated and my motby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
The way to keep costs down is not to bother your solicitor every 5 minutes as they will charge you for every letter, phone call etc. When my wife and I divorced I engaged with my solicitor when I needed them, all correspondence from my wifes solicitor was sent to me for me to deal with and then if there was something I needed my solicitor for I made an appointment and we dealt with it in that meeby Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Let us know how you get on in court.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
Unless you have done something underhand, such as your brother purchased the property but put it in your name to avoid something down the line then it is as a David says, it is your property and no one else has any claim on it.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum
That’s good, it’s a sign of moving on. I didn’t tell anyone at work for months that we had split up and I didn’t change my Facebook profite from Married to Single until after the decree absolute.by Andyk - UK Divorce Forum