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Ex wife failing to engage in financial remedy hearing - 7 months ago
What actions can I take to ensure my ex wife engages in the financial remedy process? I'm aware that I can ask for a penal notice to be enforced if the Form E is not completed. However, this approach seems very heavy handed and would definitely increase tensions between myself and my ex wife. However, it seems that if I don't ask for this to be done, she can just continue to failby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Remarriage and spousal maintenance - 7 months ago
Thank you for the clear advice.by atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Remarriage and spousal maintenance - 8 months ago
I'm recently divorced although we have not yet finalised the finances. We have an FDA later this month. I'm in a new relationship and plan on getting married once the finances on the divorce have been settled. I've been completely honest and open about my relationship status on my Form E. I have shared care (50/50) of my children. I earn £76K per year and my ex wife doesnby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Rescheduling adjourned FDA - 11 months ago
Our FDA was adjourned as we were doing mediation for the finances. It looks like the mediation is going to break down so I'd like to reschedule the adjourned FDA. Do you know how long I might have to wait for a new hearing? We have now had financial disclosure during the mediation sessions. Does that mean we would have to go back to the FDA or could we treat this as an FDR?by atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Spousal maintenance vs child maintenance - 1 year ago
Thanks for the advice, David. I've been advised to do a CMS assessment prior to the FDA. This would prevent inflated child maintenance benefits from being included in the divorce finances. Am I right in thinking that if a CMS arrangement was already in place, a court would be unlikely to make an order for child maintenance? I'm aware that 13 months after the consent order has bby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Spousal maintenance vs child maintenance - 1 year ago
I'm currently going through a divorce and have a child arrangements order agreed for 50/50 shared care. We have the FDA hearing on 12/10 but are hoping to resolve the matters before then. Unfortunately my wife is refusing to work but has asked that I continue to support her. Note, this is in addition to supporting the children 50% of the time and paying any child maintenance costs. Sheby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Who pays legal fees in custody and finances court cases? - 1 year ago
I'm going through an acrimonious divorce and am currently awaiting court cases for both custody and finances. I earn £76K and my STBX refuses to work but currently receives universal credit. Is there any expectation that a financially stronger spouse would be expected to pay legal fees for a financially weaker spouse? Or is each person responsible for their own legal fees? The reseaby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Child arrangements order advice - 1 year ago
Great, thanks for the advice.by atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Child arrangements order advice - 1 year ago
Our children are 6 and 9. Since the separation 2 years ago, I have worked flexibly and we have shared child care equally between us. I have offered to continue to work flexibly and reduce working hours in order to support my children when I look after them. In answer to your question, there is no reason she is not able to look after the children. We both play a very active role in our chby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Child arrangements order advice - 1 year ago
I'm in the process of getting divorced. I live with my STBX in the family home, work from home and spend as much time as I can with my kids. I have a very flexible work schedule that enables me to fit my working day around childcare. Unfortunately, my STBX is trying to limit the amount of time I have with my children. I have suggested a 50/50 split but she would rather have a 5/2 splitby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Equitable accounting - 1 year ago
Thanks for the detailed response. I understand that there is not any legal requirement to apply these principles. From my perspective, it seems unfair that I have supported her social and love life financially after being separated. I believe the only way to address this now is to ensure the finances are split fairly going forwards as part of our divorce. I continued funding her during tby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Equitable accounting - 1 year ago
Since separating 2 years ago, I've payed the mortgage, all bills and all of my wife's personal expenses in full every month as my stbx completely refused to work. This is a significant amount of money. I have no issue with paying the mortgage and all bills but I have also funded her social life, including her dates with boyfriends and nights out with friends. This seem morally wrongby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Occupation order - 1 year ago
Thanks for the information. I'm planning on staying in the family home until the divorce, custody and finances get finalised. It's not an easy situation and I'm looking to ensure that I can protect my own position during this time. I've listed the emotional abuse as part of my C1A application. I have read that it is possible to apply for a declaratory occupation orderby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Occupation order - 1 year ago
I'm currently going through a divorce and am being emotionally abused. I'm still living in the family home with my wife and her and her family are bullying me into moving out of the family home even though I'm paying for everything. I'm fully aware of the implications of moving out of the family home during the divorce. I've completed a C1A form and have included thby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Typical wait between FA, FDR and final hearing - 1 year ago
I'm in the process of getting divorced. We should have a custody consent order agreed in the next few days. Once this is agreed, I'm going to send off my Form A as unfortunately, we're in complete disagreement in how the finances should be settled. I appreciate this varies between different courts but does anyone know how long it might take between FA, FDR and final hearing?by atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: What to do about the family home - 1 year ago
Thanks for the detailed reply. I should mention that I work flexibly and work around 50% of the week from home. Typically, I vary my working day to fit around school runs and child care. It completely isn't the case that I'm out at work all day and she raises the children. Child care is split around 50/50, I work full time and she doesn't work at all. I would actually argue thatby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: What to do about the family home - 1 year ago
Thanks for the reply. I agree that there is certainly an imbalance of incomes and this should certainly be addressed in any settlement, e.g. greater equity share in my wife's favour or spousal maintenance. My concern is more around the fact that we share 50% custody. Currently, I'm working full time and my wife is refusing to work at all. It would seem unfair for me to provide spoby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
Re: What to do about the family home - 1 year ago
Thanks for your reply. I understand the concerns. I should point out that we are planning a 50/50 custody split so I will need somewhere to live with the children when they are with me too. From speaking to solicitors and mediators, it seems unrealistic for her not to expect to work whilst I'm working full time but yet have to support 2 houses. In the case of a mesher order, where Iby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum
What to do about the family home - 1 year ago
I'm currently going through a divorce and we have had an initial mediation session. One of the challenges we have is that I currently provide for my wife 100% (she doesn't work). We have around £240K equity in the house and 2 children, aged 5 and 8. There is around £170K left to pay on the mortgage. My wife had a low paid job when she worked before and she readily admits that therby atr79gb - UK Divorce Forum