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Re: Sale of FMH Ex threatening to force me out of home before completion - 1 year ago
If it is not stipulated in the consent order it seems very unlikely your ex could force you to do this. It is perfectly normal for a sale to be linked to a related purchase. Obviously in these circumstances a related purchase must not be used as a deliberate means of holding up a sale (such as being very picky about it and/or taking no steps to find such a purchase) but assuming you are acting inby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Form E Question 2.5 Advice - 1 year ago
Well, you need to provide details of all life insurance policies whether they have a surrender value or not. So, you do need to disclose this policy, yes. Having said that, since it has no current value it will not actually be included in capital which is available for division. If you did not disclose it you would almost certainly be accused of being dishonest so it is best to disclose it even iby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Maintenance and Housing Guidance - 1 year ago
>>their knowledge of the local courts is that her chances of a Mesher Order lasting longer than two years is about one in a hundred<< Frankly, I don't believe that because my own experience after practising in courts all over England and Wales is that Mesher orders for such a short period are actually very uncommon. Typically they last until the youngest child ceases to be depby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Maintenance and Housing Guidance - 1 year ago
I would suggest you actually read what I said. You said:' >>the legal advice has been that she could get a Mesher Order or a transfer with chargeback but it would only last 2 years (not 12 until youngest is 18).<< I said, >>The children here are aged 11, 8 and 6. With such facts I do not think there is a lawyer in the country who could guarantee that if there is a Mby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Maintenance and Housing Guidance - 1 year ago
I am sorry but I am not going to comment on this any further. If you want legal advice upon which you intend to rely then you should instruct a lawyer and it seems that you have. I am not going to speculate upon complicated proposals which, so far as I know, are not shared by your wife and which may actually be opposed by her. I will say one thing though. The children here are aged 11, 8 and 6by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Maintenance and Housing Guidance - 1 year ago
Well, you are entitled to your view but I suspect if your wife receives legal advice she will not be advised to agree to your proposal as it currently stands.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Maintenance and Housing Guidance - 1 year ago
>>With Question 3, the proposal is that I stay on her mortgage and pay the equivalent of statutory child maintenance towards that. I realise that but you choosing to remain on the mortgage voluntarily is almost certainly a bad idea. Normally if one spouse gets to remain in the former matrimonial home with the children that spouse undertakes to pay the mortgage and to use her best endeby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Forced ''marriage'' from 24 years ago - 1 year ago
The position is not quite as simple as Andy thinks so trappedUK should take independent legal advice to ascertain the exact position. The are several factors which can potentially complicate the situation. If, say, two people resident and domiciled in England from birth are only 'married' by Nikah and there is no confirming civil ceremony then the 'marriage' is not recognisedby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Forced ''marriage'' from 24 years ago - 1 year ago
Please note this was 24 years ago. You have had a long time to do something about it. I am sure you were put in a very difficult position but 24 years is a long time to have done nothing about it.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Maintenance and Housing Guidance - 1 year ago
>>Question 1: Does the court consider the net or gross incomes of the parties when looking at section 25 factors?<< Net income. Although please note that has to be genuinely net as a result of deductions which really cannot be avoided. I say this because if, say, a person chose to pay 25% of their gross income into a pension and that was a voluntary choice then that would not be thby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Forced ''marriage'' from 24 years ago - 1 year ago
Marriages don't come to an end unless one spouse dies or seeks a divorce. If you didn't seek a divorce that is down to you. Marriage don't get automatically dissolved because there is no sex for X period of time.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Advice and help needed, wife lying on voluntary disclosure please read - 1 year ago
This has already been answered. There is nothing to be gained by further speculation.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Forced ''marriage'' from 24 years ago - 1 year ago
>>1. She says f*** uk law. Those are her words. I think regardless of what a uk court says or does- she would be successful in taking kids to Pakistan by hook or crook.<< If there is evidence of her intention she can certainly be prevented by the courts regardless of what she may think. >>. I therefore presume post divorce I will no longer be paying anything extra for theby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Divorce 2007 house to be sold when children 18 five years ago - 1 year ago
If there was a court order setting out the terms of financial settlement between yourself and your ex wife as part of the divorce then your rights, if any, in relation to the house will depend upon what the court order actually says.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Forced ''marriage'' from 24 years ago - 1 year ago
(1) If there is a real risk that she might take the children to Pakistan and keep them there that can be prevented by the English courts. (2) Courts do not order people to pay what they cannot afford. You can only pay what you can genuinely afford. (3) If the children live with your wife then what she does with any child maintenance you pay her is a matter for her. You do not have the rightby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Expected Financial Split? - 1 year ago
Only you and your wife can decide whether it is necessary to use an actuary. The value of the pensions here is such that whether you use an actuary is hardly compulsory. If you don't then any division of pensions would be more rough and ready but many people can accept that trade off when the pensions have this sort of value. If you do each decide to get an actuarial report it is customarby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Forced ''marriage'' from 24 years ago - 1 year ago
Frankly, I doubt that you would like what you may be told. You have spoken to solicitors. It may be a good idea to listen to them.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Coming to the end of financial negotiations - 1 year ago
>>I now have it in writing from her solicitor (without prejudice) as I asked so many questions (which they wouldn’t answer) but they could no longer deny it. Remember that you cannot rely upon a document headed 'without prejudice' in evidence. Without prejudice documents can only be used in evidence if the without prejudice negotiation ultimately results in agreement. Obviouslyby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Apply to Court to have order varied or dismissed - 1 year ago
Like I said, you should take advice before you do anything like this. If you don't you run the very real risk that your application might fail and that you would be ordered to pay your wife's legal costs in opposing your application.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Coming to the end of financial negotiations - 1 year ago
>>I just want to know if the courts would consider her mother’s capital in deciding whether the 70/30 (her way) split is fair.<< A lot depends upon the exact details of any situation. For instance, if one spouse cohabits then that cohabitation is usually relevant to their financial needs. Cohabitees can reasonably be expected to share outgoings such as food, housing costs, utilitieby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Apply to Court to have order varied or dismissed - 1 year ago
Well, you could make such an application but there would need to be very good grounds for it otherwise you might be looking at the same outcome and another order for costs against you. It would therefore be unwise to make such an application without first taking proper legal advice about the likelihood of success.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Coming to the end of financial negotiations - 1 year ago
A court looks at the housing needs of BOTH parties and not just of one. Sometimes one spouse may actually need (and get) most of the avilable capital. For instance, where the husband is a very high earner, the wife has been a stay at home mother for years, there are dependent children and limited capital. However, most cases are not like that. In most cases the housing needs of both parties haveby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Does the other parties legal team have a duty to inform other side if they in receipt of legal aid. - 1 year ago
>>Is that an requirement when court proceedings start or during voluntary disclosure also? When Legal Aid is granted notice should be served on the other side and on the court. I am not going to answer the remaining questions because I gave up doing legal aid work very many years ago.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Does the other parties legal team have a duty to inform other side if they in receipt of legal aid. - 1 year ago
Notice of issue of legal aid must be served on the other side to the litigation. That is because costs cannot be claimed againist a litigant who is legally aided which is obviously relevant to the other party.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Advice and help needed, wife lying on voluntary disclosure please read - 1 year ago
>>Do you suggest i provide my personal bank account statements ? That depends upon whether a court has directed financial disclosure or whether any disclosure is only voluntary. If a court has directed it then you should provide disclosure. If it is just voluntary you have to ask yourself whether there is any point to that if it is not to be reciprocal.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Ex threatening to stop paying mortgage & bills against consent order - 1 year ago
>>Could I apply to the Court with the updated valuations from the court appointed estate agents to prove the value in the original consent order is no longer valid & that I am offering the Ex market value to buy her out & see if the Ex can be somehow be ordered by the Court to accept my reasonable buy out offer?<< Yes. Provided you have proper valuation evidence it would beby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Advice and help needed, wife lying on voluntary disclosure please read - 1 year ago
If you have supplied the documentation for the car then it is what it is regardless of what her solicitor says. Disclosure is normally for a period of the last 12 months. People have to justify going further back.by David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Ex threatening to stop paying mortgage & bills against consent order - 1 year ago
>>Do you know if the Ex is entitled to bring in a lodger against the co-owners (my) wishes? It depends what the court order says but it seems unlikely. In any case, bearing in mind that you live there how would it be possible to instal a lodger against your wishes? A lodger would require exclusive possession of at least one room and if you deny that what lodger in their right senses woulby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Threatening options............ - 1 year ago
>> Is it true that the property left to me by my mother would not be included in the settlement, and would be classed as non-marital ?<< It is true that it is probably non-matrimonial (depending, among other things, upon what has been happening to the rent and whether your wife has ever had any interest in the property such as visiting for holidays). Whether it should be included iby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum
Re: Barrister has been cc into all email correspondence for 5 months - 1 year ago
>>1. Is this allowed ? 2. Is this cost building ? 3. Is this a breach of my confidentiality ? 4. Has her solicitor broken the SRA code of conduct ?<<< I am not going to answer the above questions. >>If this is allowed: 5. Am I allowed to “cc” my financial advisor into all future correspondence ? 6. Would I be allowed to have my financial advisor present in courtby David Terry - UK Divorce Forum