I had a high conflict divorce which was finalised about 8 years ago, with a court order that specified when I would see my children. Ongoing issues after that resulted in me going back to court several times to have the order enforced, the last of these cases concluding about 5 years ago. Since then things have been stable.
As part of the earlier enforcement cases I attended a MIAM. My ex-wife refused to engage with the mediator and after wasting a suitable amount of time and money on this I got my letter from them and could proceed with my application.
My children's needs have changed as they got older (9 year old twins, one with severe disabilities), and I am of the opinion that the current arrangements of when I see them are no longer in their best interest. I made a proposal to my ex-wife and she responded that she will not negotiate or change anything unless I take her back to court.
I notice that while the gov Uk website says I need to have attended a MIAM in the last 4 months, when I tried applying anyway using their online form, the form didn't mind that my MIAM was dated in 2017. If I proceed with my application, am I in for a nasty suprise later?
Also is there anyway around this? I don't want to attend another MIAM. I know about mediation and I know my ex-wife won't engage so it's just a waste of time and money as far as I'm concerned.