Welcome to my world!!! That is exactly what happened with my wife and our divorce, she wanted one, I didn’t and she used unreasonable behaviour (she couldn’t use her own adultery as a reason). I disagreed with all of her unreasonable behaviour statements, one of them was that I was controlling with money, but she was spending faster than I could earn so I had to say no to things we didn’t need to ensure the mortgage continued to be paid. Another one was that I was working long hours and was t spending any family time with her - because I was working overtime to make more money that she was spending.
I used the wording that David provided on my acknowledgement just to get the divorce moving although it grieved me that I was the one being made out to be the bad guy when it was her that was having an affair, but at the end of the day that doesn’t really matter.
I have filed all my divorce papers with all of my other important documents, what I have done for my own piece of mind really is written notes against each of the unreasonable behaviours to sort of put my side of things and justify why I was perceived to be behaving like that. One day when I’m gone and my children go through all my papers I hope they will see my side of the divorce not just their mother divorcing me because she got the petition in first.
Good luck with everything, it might seem like the end of your world at the moment but believe me as someone who has been thought his, whilst I would rather have stayed married, I have come out the other side much happier than I ever thought I would and I am having a great life.