Sorry for the long post. I am looking for either people who can help me change the system, overturn my situation, or who have experienced a similar situation. If all else fails I would like to know I am not alone (Although I wish I was the only one this ever happened to)
Here Goes...
I (potentially) had everything. I was bringing in a 6 figure income and we lived in a large house. But after the birth of our kids, my wife developed depression and lost interest in me. 20 years later in my 40's, I had an affair. It is a decision I regret in many ways.
When my wife found out about the divorce (because I was in the throws of a new relationship and told her), she initially begged me to stay. By the time I realised the grass is not greener, 12 months later, she was instead out for revenge. I tried to return to the family home, primarily because I was paying the expensive mortgage but also because I had a small glimmer that we could get something back.
My children 19 and 20, where turned against me due to the affair.
I was then assaulted; attacked in my bed, punched in my home office, kicked, slapped, strangled....in my home office. The police where called on numerous occasions. Initially I was told to leave the property. She was made to leave ONCE. I have been arrested about 6 times, including my 48th birthday, and Christmas Day 2021. I was also arrested AFTER showing the police video evidence of abuse towards me.
My wife was brought up on charges, 6 months following an incident where she sprayed me in the face with household cleaner, and I was arrested for Controlling Behaviour. 6 months later and she was offered a charge, pleaded guilty, and got a 6 months conditional discharge. (no record).
Following my Control arrest, I applied for a non molestation order; the reason was simple. I wanted both of us to stay in the house, (hoping to reconcile) but needed her excluded from my office so i could work. It was granted, but at the hearing I showed videos of abuse. My wife showed photographs of bruising and claimed I was the cause (I deny it), The judge made 2 matching orders. 1 Week later my wife started sending me text messages accusing me or damaging the locks on some of the windows around the house. I was living in a motorhome, while paying for my wife to live in a big victorian house. I was low, and weakened by it all. I replied to her accusation and swore at her.
Long story short I was arrested and charged with breach of non molestation order. I pleaded not guilty, went to a magistrate and got found guilty, for sending an offensive text message.
Christmas 2021, I got attacked by my family (kids are against me now), and excluded from Christmas day and dinner. I spent the whole day in my room on my own, ate left overs, which where taken off me, I was punched, and when I tried to get them to leave my office, I was arrested. (release NFA boxing day).
Most of 2022 I was out of the house, in my motorhome.
July 2022, I was back at the house, I got prevented from watching a 1 hour tv program I was waiting for, ultimately getting kicked in the ribs and taking myself to hospital. over the next 3 days I am attacked repeatedly. Then I (granted drinking to deal with pain from the cracked rib), got attacked by my wife, whiskey thrown over me, my food thrown, and as she attacked me she burnt herself on the over....called police, i was arrested.
2 days ago I defended my not guilty please. My wife's story changed 3 times. Mine was constant. There was no concrete evidence of who did what; I was my word against hers (and i didn't do it)
The judge basically made up a story that was something completely different....but the said GUILTY!
Now I have 2 convictions. I am a violent criminal, and I have evidence to the contrary. I have actual video evidence of my assaults...The police even ask my WHY i take video....like Im doing it do i can provoke her and watch the fallout....despite police telling me to record my movements.
Anyone? This can't be the tru state of the british justice system?
Then I tried to go back. I was there for a while; and things seemed ok.