Divorcing narcissist husband, what should I brace for?

Hi everyone

So after years of my husband repeated damage to our marriage and my own sanity, my husbands ego must have inflated so much he finally pushed the boundaries that little bit too far.

Long story short he has landed himself in a very precarious situation and is being investigated. I am aware of what he has done but he doesn't know this. I'm keeping calm and quietly taking steps to get a divorce from him.

I was wandering if anyone had experience of divorcing a narcissistic husband as I am really not sure what to expect when I put my cards on the table and ask for a divorce.

Friends are telling me to get ready for a really rough ride....

I'm ready for a fight but truly want to just walk away as we have a teenage son together so I really would like this to be amicable.

Thanks

Well, no-one needs to ask for a divorce. It is not like getting married. You don't need the permission of the other spouse. If you are certain that the marriage is over and that you want a divorce then yould get one regardless of what your husband thinks.

The second point is that it is sometimes possible to have an 'amicable' divorce. Many people can do that and where it is possible it saves a lot of stress (and cost). Also, bear in mind that people have good days and bad days. Just because your husband might throw his toys out of the pram one day that does not mean he might not be reasonable on another day. It pays to be alert to that.

Having said that, there are also plenty of unreasonable people. If, say, a person says, 'You are not having a penny. I will see you homeless,' it usually isn't worthwhile trying to reason with such a person (let alone giving in to him). In cases like that you just have to get your own independent legal advice and seek what you are entitled to just as you get a divorce. You just have to deal with the cards you are dealt and do it calmly without allowing yourself to be coerced by a spouse you are divorcing.

Thank you for your response, it's much appreciated.

I definitely want a divorce, I'm hoping he will buy me out of the house. The Mortgage is in my name but I don't want the property or anything in it. I just want to go as soon as possible.

I have a small amount saved which should get me into a 2 bed rental.

I'm just wandering if anyone else has divorced a narcissist and if they managed to divorce amicably.

>>I just want to go as soon as possible.

If you hope for him to buy you out at anything like a fair price you should take care not to make him aware of the urgency on your part.